Dating man busy with kids
Infants and toddlers won't register that this is Mommy's new boyfriend.Older kids' reactions could run the gamut from very threatened to seemingly indifferent.
There were no obvious candidates for me right off the bat either.Julia Landry, the author of the blog Unexpectedly Expecting, where she chronicles her life as the single mom of a 3-year-old, says she prefers to date dads: "They're less likely to unfairly judge me for being a single mom and they understand that my child will always come first." But Landry doesn't promote a hard-and-fast rule."Non-dads tend to be able to work better with the crazy schedule of a single mom," she says. If it works with someone, it works, dad-ness be damned. I was dating a guy for a couple of months when my girls, then 8 and 12, got wind of his existence.My friend Kristin Cole, who lives in Montclair, New Jersey, recalls that her 10-year-old announced that he was going to say "I hate you! What really happened is that they tossed a football around in the yard and ended up becoming pretty chummy.Much will also depend on how your beau handles himself.
He and the girls got to interact casually in a group setting, without him feeling like he was on a job interview.